I was loving the sunshine at the weekend and to my delight, my next-door neighbours invited me round for a barbeque.
As I’m new to the area, I reckoned this was a great opportunity to get to know everyone in the street, so bottle in hand, I looked forward to having a great time.
I met lots of lovely people and enjoyed myself until the end of the night when everyone had gone home and I was left drinking with my hosts.
To my horror, it turns out they are swingers who hit on me big time.
I flew out of their garden like a bat out of hell and have barely gone outside since.
I haven’t even put a washing out to dry in case I see them over the fence.
What do you suggest I do now?
Jane.
Dear Jane,
You arrived at a party in good faith with apparently welcoming and friendly neighbours and they turned a sociable evening into an embarrassing, unwanted, and awkward situation.
You were naive to their predatory intentions as anyone would have been, so don’t blame yourself, however, they were totally out of order making unwanted sexual advances toward you, especially when it must have been obvious that you’d had a few drinks.
Going forward, you can’t live like a hermit in your new home in fear of seeing this pair, so hang out your washing, sit in your garden, and if either attempts to explain their behaviour or laughs it off, be polite, civil, keep your interaction brief, and distance yourself from now on.
You must be hugely disappointed moving into your new home and finding yourself in this situation, but I’m sure your other neighbours will be welcoming and friendly in a neighbourly way, without a predatory sexual agenda!
Dear Janice,
My girlfriend and I get on great, but she only wants to see me every now and then, whereas I’d love to see her every day of the week if I could.
I am constantly thinking of places to take her, but she is always busy with other stuff.
I know she has a busy family life, but sometimes I feel like I am a last resort for her.
Where do I stand?
Kyle.
Dear Kyle,
I’m sorry to say it, but to me it is clear where you stand.
When she doesn’t make you a priority, it’s because she doesn’t feel the need or want to be around you.
If she did, she would.
Regardless of how busy your girlfriend is, she is where she wants to be, she spends time with the people she wants to be with, and sadly you are not one of them.
You seem like a caring, loyal, and thoughtful guy; so, the least you deserve is a girlfriend who not only reciprocates your feelings, but lights up when she sees your text invitations, instead of keeping busy to avoid you.
Accept this, move on and the right lass will come along.
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